Sex isn’t an easy conversation, but that doesn’t mean you have to run away or avoid it.

Couples who have been together for years may even struggle to talk about it, especially with an outside third party like a therapist.

Even just the thought of having to talk about sex with someone other than your partner could leave you feeling a bit uneasy or uncertain about the entire idea of going to therapy.

Try not to let those feelings and fears get in the way of your decision to go to couples therapy.

Let’s find out if sex is a required topic to talk about in couples therapy.

The Topic of Sex in Couples Therapy

Long story short, you don’t have to talk about sex during couples therapy.

But, just like any other type of therapy, you obviously don’t have to talk about anything that you don’t want to. Talking about sex during couples therapy is something to consider, though!

Think about it this way: There are certain layers to a relationship, bonding, and connecting with one another on a deeper level. For many, sex is a huge part of their relationship. But for some, it’s not. Perhaps this is a time to discuss with your partner what role sex plays in your relationship.

If you find you have different ideas about the role of sex in your relationship and are struggling to reconcile, it could be something to discuss in couples therapy, as it indicates there may be an issue with communication and compromise.

Couples Therapy vs. Sex Therapy

Couples therapy and sex therapy are two different types of therapies. Sure, the topic of sex may come up during couples therapy, but it also addresses the emotional aspects of your relationship. During couples therapy, the topic of sex may not come up at all depending on both your and your partner’s reasons for attending therapy in the first place.

Sex therapy is specifically related to the issues that may be taking place within your sex life.

Another difference between couples therapy and sex therapy is that both partners are required to participate during couples therapy. During sex therapy, only one person may be present.

Typically, the issues discussed during sex therapy include the following: low sex drive, sexual trauma, difficulty getting an erection, difficulty climaxing, and sexual preferences.

On the other hand, during couples therapy, the types of issues that are addressed could include the following: relationship building, effective communication skills, conflict resolution, anger management, and being open and honest with one another.

How to Talk About Sex During Couples Therapy

Keep in mind that a licensed therapist has probably discussed sex at least a few times during one of their sessions with previous clients. Sex is one of the main reasons that couples actually end up in couples therapy. No matter what your relationship status is, you can always learn more about sex and intimacy.

Here are some important things to keep in mind if you’re a little hesitant about discussing your sex life during couples therapy:

  • You’re not alone in your thoughts and feelings.
  • There’s a good chance your therapist has heard it all before.
  • Therapy is a safe place for both you and your partner.
  • If you feel uncomfortable at any point during your session, let your partner and your therapist know.
  • You may feel uncomfortable when you’re discussing it during your therapy session, but think of what it can do to benefit your relationship with your partner.

If you are looking to get into couples therapy, reach out to us today by booking a free consultation.